LATIFA AYOOLA: Why pretty girls are still single…
February 22, 2011 by admin · 4 Comments
Think about it, how many of your pretty friends are still single? There is a misconception that pretty girls have it all. Sure prettiness could get you some things on a silver platter but it can deny you the most relevant things in life, e.g. a partner. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that all pretty girls are single. Some of them are pretty much taken; they are the exception. I call them, lucky.
When was the last time you dated? Take a closer look at this; you have been on dates but they are just not working out or you have not been on a date for so long you can hardly recall how long. You have not dated anyone in awhile is not equivalent to “no lad asked you out”. You have been getting tons and tons of propositions but they are just not right. Sure sometimes you have to give it a go, be open-minded and try your luck but you are now tired of settling for second best.
What is second best? For me, second best is when you decide to date someone just for the heck of it. Maybe your friends think your “pickie” or you just want a boyfriend and you decide to give it a go. These are not good enough reasons for me to date anyone. Sure, the guy fits an ideal man specification; he’s tall, cute, ambitious, and youthful, whatever fits your spec; yet he just not right. You feel nothing. You went on first date, you felt nothing. After three months of dating, you still feel nothing. I don’t beat about the bush. If I don’t feel a thing after few conversations, I will never feel “a thing”.
Sometimes, you don’t get the feeling at all, you don’t expect it yet it creeps up on you. So you like him now, you look for signs that he feels the same way. You find out that he likes you. Then you worry about what he likes about you and what he wants from you. Right, physical attraction comes first but you don’t want a man that is only physically attracted to you. You want to know if there are other things that he likes about you. You are tired of being a trophy or sexual toy? Or you never want to be a trophy? So you need to know. You ponder over it. You ask him straight up and realised he thinks you are fit and pretty. How do you feel?
Disappointed, thrown, torn and defeated. Yet again, another one refused to see beyond the beauty. To rub insult upon injury, some guys believe you have at least 4 boyfriends just because you are pretty. Some guys automatically think you are taken. You are attracting weirdoes. The guys you really like are not completely into you and you feel like you are the one always trying to mend or bridge your relationships. Something is always an obstacle between you and him. You got tired of it all and went back to your little cocoon, the single life.
Yet, the world won’t let you be. You get asked all the time why are you single and you have no proper answer. Then you realised, you been waiting for a lifetime and you are still waiting. Like a queue that is never ending, it still not your turn. Everywhere you turn, you see couples and you look away. You just don’t want to think about it. Your mother is pestering you about your lack of boyfriend and you just suppress all your emotions. Your extended family are constantly reminding you of marriage and babies. Your friends are always asked if there is a bloke in your life. Your friends think you need deliverance because you are too pretty to be single. So you ask yourself, what do I have? I’m pretty, educated, charming, friendly, etc. So, what do I lack? Why am I still single?
Why do some pretty girls have it tough in love stakes? It is because they refuse to settle for what they don’t want. Although, they took into consideration everything their mother says but they don’t let it influence them. Patience is a virtue. Good things come to girls who wait.
This article don’t help sh*t, pretty girls are adamant anyway. Pretty girls are too carried away with stuff that don’t matter, materialistic, pickie, gold diggers and too busy being superficial. Well maybe not all of them but relatively large number of them. Next time don’t waste ur time articles like this.
This does make a lot of sense, and I applaud the writer. The question is does it help, does pretty girls listen. My answer is NO. They prefer being baby mother to wife. smh
The moment a girl realise she is pretty, it gets into her head and always aim for non existing perfection. ..….Lol …
It is not bad fantasising about who we really wish to be with in life, I once did, I wanted a man without fault but seriously, they don’t usually come true; it is reality and not novels or movies.
The most important point to take note of is to find someone who is genuine, hardworking with strong future prospect and most importantly, someone you are physically attracted to.
I total agree with the writer…if you are pretty, intelligent and outspoken.. You pretty much going to be single for the rest of ur life. Men are afraid of this. They wwould still prefer someone who is average looking that will stay at home have babies and listen to every word they order.. What would u as a women wish for in life..remember u cannot have it both ways..